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Life is hectic and sometimes we need to recenter. I like to use a mantra to bring my mind back to focus. I get overwheled or sidetracked so a few lines I can repeat to reset helps.

Here’s my worksheet with some mantras that I use as insperation, or actually use a line or two from. There’s also a free site on there so you can have a recording of a voice to listen to or speak along with. I like to listed to these in the car to set my mind for the situation. I type the mantra, copy and paste it 5-7 times, and then I just play it once or twice on the way to work. I think 0.8 speed is great, I also increase the time that the voice pauses between paragraphs so I’m not running one repetition into the other.


For work, I listen on the way, have this printed and posted to my computer screen, and I say it throughout the day when I know my head isn’t where it should be.

I am calm and patient.
I focus on the individual.
I listen and pause before responding.
I seek, accept, and complete tasks with grace.

My husband has a different set of priorities for chores than I do. I have ultimately decided to just accept that I need to do the things that I want done, because while he does chores they simply aren’t the ones I ask. The cycle of me asking, him doing something else, and me getting upset was putting a strain on our marriage. I have decided to stop asking him to do chores and it’s been working out. If there are chores to be done, I will listen to this one on the way home.

I am independently productive.
I am strong, smart, and self-supporting.
I successfully complete tasks and goals severally.

My husband and I are happy and we have a great marriage. We’ve had some med changes, and the above issue caused some tension for a while, so I’m just looking to refocus how I approach my husband and our marriage. I listen to this one when there’s not a particularly hefty task and I want my focus to be

I love my husband as he is.
I exhibit love through patience.
I am responsible for how I act and react.
My husband is physically and sexually attractive.


These are the mantras I use right now, but as my circumstances or the things I need to focus on change, I put together a new one. I try to avoid certain words, such as “don’t” “not”. instead of “I don’t get angy” I try “I keep my temper” or “I breathe before I respond”.

I hope this helps you to recenter, to make a mantra of your own, and to do whatever might work some positive changes in your life. No one, including me, is perfect and we all have room to grow and change.

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BBH – Reading to be Better

Book Blogger Hop is a weekly, Friday through Thursday, question themed post. Originally created by Crazy for Books and reignited by Coffee Addicted Writer, its purpose is to give bloggers a chance to follow other blogs, learn about new books, befriend other bloggers, and receive new followers their own blog.

This week’s question is “Has reading helped you to become a better person?”, posted by the blog owner, Coffee Addicted Writer.

Reading has helped me to be a better person, and continues to be a source of growth for me.

The obvious help has been from self-help books. The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, The Happiness Project, and How to Make Friends and Influence People & How to Stop Worrying and Start Living are among the most impactful. I re-read the latter two and learn something new about how to be better each time. I’ve read others, and I’m always open to more. No one is perfect, so I’ll keep reading to improve.

I also am working on my faith. I am Jewish but I’m really finding Awaken: 90 Days with the God Who Speaks helpful. I have read Letters to a Buddhist Jew twice, and I’m looking to reading it again in the near future.

I’ve read some feminist and some equality and equity books that have helped to point out my flaws in thinking and acting. They’ve reframed my way of thinking and I should find more to read. While there are many out there and I’ve read quite a few, How to Be an Antiracist, Inferior: How Science Got Women Wrong—and the New Research That’s Rewriting the Story, and We’re Going to Need More Wine stood out an I highly recommend these books.

I’m interested in your opinion of the books that I have read, and look forward to your recommendations for books that I can read to continue to improve myself.

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Registered for the Growth Summit

Industry experts, successful bloggers, business leaders, and creatives will join WordPress.com experts for engaging talks and tactical demonstrations to help your site grow.

While I won’t be able to attend the live sessions, I am so thrilled to get the recordings to be a better blogger.

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